Just over 2 months ago, you were diagnosed with major depressive disorder. So I decided to write you a letter to read to yourself whenever you feel that unpleasant darkness invading your mind. I hope it helps you return to the light and feel the warmth of life so you can live to fight another day, because you are a warrior woman.
Let me start by saying that it’s okay to feel like you aren’t doing as well as you are supposed to. So if you need to, take a second to breathe, to cry, to put your head down, stare out a window or go for a walk. Do that, without distractions. Give thanks for everything that you are blessed with, take a look at all the beautiful things around you, and be free from stress for just a moment.
When you decide that you are ready to face the things that you can change, do it with 100% commitment. That doesn’t mean 100% perfection. It’s important to know the difference. Start by making a plan. Write it down, memorize it, put it on a Post-It on the mirror. Do whatever makes it the easiest for you. Think through your plan logically, take into consideration your strengths and weaknesses.
I know that you never imagined that you’d end up here. You had big plans and bigger dreams, and depression was something you never saw coming. It was silent, sneaky. It crept up on you like a lion going in for the kill. You didn’t see what was happening until it consumed you. But I want to remind you of 2 very important things:
Firstly, no one thinks less of you because you struggle with this disease. Even when it might seem that you are more alone than ever before, you have the support of a family that loves you endlessly and friends who love you wildly. There is an army assembled behind you, ready to fight the battle with you until the very end.
Secondly, the world would not be better without you in it. There is no laugh like yours, your voice cannot be replicated, and your smile is breathtakingly unique. No one thinks in exactly the same way, or loves in precisely the same fashion as you. There is no other you, and there will never be another you for all eternity. You were placed here by a perfect and unfailing God for a divine and beautiful purpose; you are fearfully and wonderfully made.
Don’t take pity on yourself. Instead, work harder to make your situation better.
Choose happiness. There are so many things to be thankful for.
Ask when you need help. No one can read your mind.
Time won’t stop for you. Worrying and stressing is simply a waste of time.
Nothing will change your situation more than changing your attitude.
Perspective is everything.
Be thankful for your struggles, because there is a lesson to be a learned in the end of it.
Be strong and know that you are in God’s hands. Everything will work out. It may not be today or tomorrow, but eventually the pieces will fall into place and you will understand why the battle was worth it.
You can conquer anything you put your mind to. So breathe, take a minute, re-evaluate, and grow.